In my role as a life coach, I ask about the kinds of things that would make my clients happy, such as how they would like to be made to feel, what they would like to accomplish.
And what they would like to gain from our sessions together. This video is going to be a little bit different than usual because I’m going to talk about the things we need to completely quit doing.
Stop doing these behaviours if you wish to find happiness. A lot of what we’ve learned in the past needs to be unlearned.
From what I’ve seen, there are a few essential habits that we all share that serve to keep us mired in the past, unhappy, and unable to go forward.
What Could Make You Sad: 6 Possible Causes
Such practises are outlined below.
1. We Are Giving Up
Giving up on our goals is the saddest thing we can do, in my opinion. All too often, we ignore our talents, choose the “safe” route, or deny ourselves the chance to go after our hearts’ deepest desires.
This leads to significant disappointment in the future and a lack of excitement in the present.
2. Stressing Out About What People Will Think Of You In The Future
Worry is a mental habit that arises when we keep attempting to find a solution to something that isn’t a problem or can’t be solved.
It’s easy to get sucked in because it makes us feel useful, like we’re accomplishing something. It prevents us from experiencing the most loathsome of all human emotions: helplessness.
3. Putting Yourself Apart
When one of my therapy clients cries or becomes emotional during a session, they invariably apologise. What’s wrong with being sad and showing it?
Really, I do know the solution. Unless you’re at a funeral, where a few tears are allowed, it’s rude to show public displays of emotion. but if you start bawling or “losing control,” watch out!
4. Maintaining Silence and Improvising on the Fly
As a general rule, people try to avoid arguments wherever possible. However, this is only because the vast majority of people are unaware that there is a productive approach to handle arguments.
Most of us are too timid to speak up for ourselves for fear of coming across as aggressive, pushy, cunning, or nasty.
5. Ignoring Hunger
To put it simply, hanger exists. The stress hormone cortisol is released into the body in response to low blood sugar.
Canadian author, psychotherapist, and trauma recovery specialist Heather Kent wrote that low energy makes people “irritable, lethargic, sluggish, and angry.
6. Spending the Night in Front of Emotionally Draining Television
When you should be winding down for bed, you instead flip on your go-to crime show for a marathon session of rewatching.
While for some of us, these shows aren’t a problem, for others, they might leave us feeling irritated or even melancholy long after we’ve stopped watching.
Conclusion
Each of us has our own unique style of dealing with adversity. Intentional (having one more drink to get through Wednesday).
Or reflexive (acting tough when you’re really ready to crack) coping methods are adaptive responses to stressful situations.